Around me, the whiners, with the 512 reasons they cannot do well in today’s economy or in their businesses or in their lives.
One of the tremendous points of leverage for behavioral change we’ve been erasing from society is “shame.” People on food stamps aren’t ashamed about it. Obese people aren’t ashamed; they sue McDonalds. Pro athletes whose teams suck or who get caught gulping steroids aren’t ashamed.
One day on Dr. Phil, there was a young couple fighting; she, grossly overspending, an out of control shopaholic badly in need of a spanking. But the gripe she had about hubby was 100% legit: he had a mechanic’s job, brought home a small paycheck, and was blatantly unconcerned, unembarrassed, unashamed about its size, uninterested in doing anything to replace it with a bigger one.
Nothing shameful about being poor. Shameful to stay poor, in America.
Similarly, when a business owner is asked “How’s business?’ and he says “No good”, I think he ought to be ashamed of himself. Embarrassed.
When I wasn’t doing well, I was horribly embarrassed. It motivated me, because I hated being embarrassed. I still hate it. I truly hate not doing well, at anything.
What I see around me is too many people who are too accepting of what should be humiliating, making them miserable, angry and proactive. It seems obvious to me that the business owner who can’t eat or pee in peace without answering his cellphone….the doctor who can’t do good marketing “because his staff doesn’t like it”….the financial advisor or plumber not getting a ton of referrals….the salesman not making 6-figures or more….ought to be embarrassed.